Your everyday life · observing
Feeling tells you little. Comparing tells you more: your note from the beginning, your everyday life and the view of someone who knows you.
All of this is voluntary. Rico works on your field whether you write anything down or not.
Why observing tells you more than feeling
A large part of the work lies outside what you perceive. This is explained in detail under Why you don’t feel everything. Rico works where the causes lie, not where something can quickly be felt. He also says explicitly what it is not about:
“The goal of remote energy work isn’t for a person to notice that I’m working”
Rico Brunner
Added to this is a peculiarity that is part of Rico’s model. What works well goes unnoticed. You rarely notice your knee as long as it simply does what it should. According to Rico, it is similar with a field.
“You don’t feel an energy field that works well.”
Rico Brunner
The sentence only works in one direction. Feeling little doesn’t mean that everything is working. And feeling a lot doesn’t mean that a lot is happening. Feeling alone is therefore not a good measure, neither for Rico nor for you.
And then there is something very human. What is no longer hard is quickly forgotten, often within a few days.
“And that is, when I have a problem and it gets solved, within two, three days I forget that I had this problem.”
Rico Brunner
Rico thinks this is right, because you have to move on. For observing, though, it means: without an anchor from the beginning, you have nothing to compare with.
Your anchor: three sentences at the beginning
The anchor is small. It is voluntary and not homework.
- Write down what is on your mind most right now. Two or three sentences are enough.
- Write down what you currently find hard or what you would like to trust yourself to do: a situation, a conversation, a task.
- Add the date and put the note away.
A piece of advice Rico gives for recognizing behavior patterns helps here too: write tentatively. “I think this is what triggered it” leaves room. A firm sentence sounds like a verdict, and your note should remain an observation.
After a few weeks you read it again. Not to prove anything, but to compare. Some things may still be the same. Some may no longer be there, and without the note you wouldn’t have noticed. If you wrote down your concern when you ordered, it can be your anchor.
Three sources for comparing: your note, your everyday life and what others notice. From them follow feedback to Rico, if you want, and your own decision.
Others often see it first
Often other people notice before you do. Rico says this about behavior patterns in general: you recognize them poorly in yourself, while from the outside they are much easier to see.
“… sometimes other people sense that you’re calmer, that you’re more focused, that you can set boundaries better. And sometimes you don’t notice it yourself.”
Rico Brunner
So ask someone who knows you well. Ideally openly, without suggesting an answer: “Have you noticed anything about me lately?” A question that already contains the answer won’t tell you anything new.
A good day or a change?
A good day is a good day. According to Rico, what moves in the field tends to show over a longer time. Mostly in that you manage something without forcing yourself to. When a part of the field works, you use it without thinking about it.
A good day
- comes and goes with the day
- often depends on sleep, weather, mood
- you notice it right away
What moves in the field
- tends to show over a longer time
- shows in situations that come back
- you often notice it only by comparing
Three clues help you tell them apart. None of them is proof.
- A situation that used to throw you off course comes back, and you react differently several times.
- You didn’t “do” it. It happened.
- Someone tells you that you seem calmer or clearer, without you having told them about it.
What to watch for, depending on your situation
What is worth observing depends on where you stand right now. Often you are in several situations at once; then more than one line applies.
If you don’t see any change
That happens, and it is no reason to feel ashamed or to gloss over anything. Feeling nothing does not on its own allow any certain conclusion, in either direction. Rico says openly that some people with difficult constellations noticed nothing for a long time, and adds that it doesn’t have to be that way for you.
Rather than reassuring yourself, it helps to have a way to go about it.
How much time you give it all is something no one can decide for you. Rico says so plainly:
“Only each person can judge this question for themselves.”
Rico Brunner
What happens with your observations
Your observations don’t steer where Rico works in your field. He reads that in the field itself. Still, they matter. In his model, your feedback and your everyday life form a second check alongside his perception. Over a longer time they show whether the work fits your life. What good feedback contains is described under When things get harder.
Questions that come up often
- Do I have to keep a diary?
- No. Three sentences at the beginning are enough, and even those are voluntary. If you like to write more, go ahead. It makes no difference to Rico’s work.
- When should I read the note again?
- After a few weeks, whenever you think of it. There is no fixed date. More important than the day is that you read slowly and compare honestly.
- Should I write to Rico about what I notice?
- If you want to, yes, by email to [email protected]. What puzzles you or doesn’t fit these pages is useful too.
- What if I notice something that worries me?
- Then don’t wait for the next comparison. If you have symptoms, you see a doctor; in an emergency, you call 144. What else applies is under When things get harder.
Where to go next
What you do when you feel worse is under When things get harder. How pausing and ending work is under Duration, pause and ending. Why feeling reveals so little is explained in Why you don’t feel everything.