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Why calm comes first

Please note: the workshops are currently held in German only. I plan to offer workshops in English at a later date. If you would like to learn this and organize a workshop in English yourself, you are welcome to send an inquiry to [email protected].

Your system is balancing itself all the time, day and night. It needs calm for this, and it has its own pace. Why faster is not better and less is often more.

The balancing never stops

You know this from your body. It doesn’t work by appointment, and it doesn’t say: I’ll deal with that in two weeks. It balances, all day long, twenty-four hours. It’s exactly the same with your energy field.

In the Energyology framework model I describe this process as a circle. Out of calm comes an action. The action brings unrest. A counter-action balances the unrest and leads back into calm. This happens endlessly, in every part of your field.

If that’s how it is, why a workshop? Because you don’t learn the balancing itself. Your system can already do that. You learn to be in a state in which it can run well, and not to disturb it.

Why it goes piece by piece

Something that has hit you deeply is like a mountain. Every day your system wears away a small piece of it. That’s why some things take time. If it went faster, that would be no gain.

Rico’s words

What would happen if everything were worn away at once? The system would crash. A system couldn’t stand that. … And that’s why it’s also something you have to accept, that it always goes as fast as is possible.

Rico Brunner, workshop

If you’re already doing well, things run almost by themselves, because your field carries you. If you have little ground under your feet right now, you need a slower pace. Both are right. That’s why I work in small portions, and I advise you to do the same when you practice. A system takes in the most when it is slightly underchallenged.

Calm down first

An overwhelmed system can’t process anything. When someone comes with many problems at once, the system first has to come to rest before anything else is possible at all.

When someone has no strength, it looks as if they lack energy. So it seems obvious to push them. I see it differently. Most systems that seem sluggish are in fact overwhelmed. Pushing them increases the overwhelm.

Rico’s words

So it’s really about calming the system and strengthening it through the calming.

Rico Brunner, workshop

Calming doesn’t mean covering something up. A calming whose only aim is quiet can also switch off what would be important right now. What I mean is a calming that gives the system room to work on its own again. What comes after that is set by the system.

Less is more, but in the right place

This rule applies in my work, and it applies in the workshop. An exercise lasts about two minutes, no longer. In between, you change places. More exercises don’t bring more if they make you tired.

I had to learn this myself. My first workshop lasted four days.

Rico’s words

I thought, now I have to deliver, and looking back, four days was too much.

Rico Brunner, workshop

Today it’s two days with fewer exercises. I have observed that the learning process is stronger when there is less fatigue.

Distraction can also create calm. If you do something completely different in a difficult situation, you give your system the chance to calm down. Why that’s allowed is explained under May I push things away? Do I have to forgive?.

How far you get depends on where you start

When practicing, many people ask why they notice so little. The answer often has to do with the starting point. In the workshop I explain it with debt:

Rico’s words

Someone has a million euros or francs of debt. And now he manages to pay off 200,000 in the first year. That’s an incredible amount. But it won’t change anything, because he still has 800,000 of debt. His feeling will stay the same: he has debt.

Rico Brunner, workshop

A big step can feel small if you start far back. So don’t overwhelm yourself with a goal that can’t be reached right now. That applies to someone in a hard phase just as much as to someone who wants to keep what they have, or who would like to move forward. Everyone starts at their own point.

Questions that come up often

Why can’t it go faster?

Because your system can only process as much as it can carry. Everything at once would overload it. It always goes as fast as is possible.

I lack strength. Don’t I need a push instead?

Usually not. What looks like a lack of strength is often overwhelm. Then your system first needs calm.

Should I practice more so that it goes faster?

No. A few minutes twice a day is enough. More tends to make you tired. More under Keep practicing at home.

I practice and don’t notice anything. Is that normal?

Yes. How much you notice also depends on where you started. More under When you don’t perceive anything.